6 Common Mistakes to Avoid with getting the EX back


Today i thought i would post specifically on common mistakes you should avoid during and after breakup. Now while you may have made some of these mistakes already it is important you do not continue making the same mistakes and correct any mistakes you have made. Now before i begin any mistake made so far are not worthy of blaming yourself for or even pulling your hair out over, as long as you take this advice in you will be fine.

  • Mistake1: Begging your ex to come back every minute and in every way possible
  • Mistake2: Telling the ex you will change and try to fix the relationship
  • Mistake3: Letting the ex know you will always be there for them
  • Mistake4: Being friends with the ex and then trying to prove your good for them
  • Mistake5: Speaking to your exes friends or family after the breakup or even stalking the ex
  • Mistake6: Getting angry or sad at the exes decision and letting your ego rile you up

Now you may read the above and think huh? Why are these mistakes not helping and how I am supposed to get my ex back if i don’t do the above? The simple answer is that respecting your decision for the ex to breakup with you is paramount to where you go from here and how you deal with such a breakup. As you can see all the above seem the exact opposite of what you should do (at least for most exes) but actually the above is all true.

You cannot get anywhere with an ex when making the above mistakes, they actually very pointless in the bigger picture but let me tell you, if you have already made the above mistakes, if any, do not worry. Many people during breakups make the above mistakes quite often and it is quite common to make at least one or all mistakes. The best thing to know here is that even if you have done any of the above you still have chances with the ex so do not sweat it, it just means you will have to be more serious when it comes to doing the ‘right way’.

In the next 2 parts of the blog i will explain the many reasons you may have broke up and why being friends after the breakup is a disaster. Until then thanks for reading.

~Jay Rando

5 thoughts on “6 Common Mistakes to Avoid with getting the EX back

  1. Hi, I’ve just realized that I made big mistakes after reading your posts. It’s been two months since we broke up. Sometimes he texted me and I replied and the other way around maybe once in a week or something. Sometime we talked over the same problem again.

    So I want to reapply the NC rule from now on. Is it too late already or what should I do to get my ex back?

  2. We met 7 months ago online. There is an age difference of ten years she is taurus im an aries. There was alot of chemistry between us so i decided to stay with her whilst i was studying in her city from wed to sat every week! From maybe around 2 months into the relationship she started picking silly little arguements with me over things such as….me not calling/texting as soon as i got up in the morning or when i finished work at nights when i was back home. She would text me when i was on my way through asking if i was nearly there. She was very very much a cuddly person. Anyway, all these little arguements boiled over 2 weeks ago, she had been out and so had i back home. She was quite a jealous person anyway and asked me if i was home. I replied yeah are you? She wasnt really ever keen me questioning her at times! She said we werent working and that she thought about her ex so i finished with her! The following day i text her saying all kinds of things blah blah blah. She said she didnt like drama etc. After a few hours she contacted me wanting me to go through, i went through and she was glad we had got back together and said she had just made that stuff up about her ex! And her friends had said to her that we need to communicate more. If something annoys us about each other we have to discuss it. We both agreed and last week was all back to normal. We were much more loving towards each other holding hands, kissing all that stuff! She was looking forward to summer holidays, valentines etc However, i did at times not welcome her home after work with a kiss and a glass of wine or cup of tea. These gestures i know are important to a taurus. On friday night we had gone out. I then got jealous and caused an arguement due to drunkeness. On sat morning went to see her at her work. Said see you later gave her a kiss. I went on my way, i then got a mess saying we were over as there was no more chemistry for her! No other reason. I have since learnt that it was
    All these little things that caused this to happen as they make big impacts on a taurean. I have explained that it couldve work if we only talked. I would change etc. I was very confused and kept asking her why she was so happy 2 days previous and she said she was pretending. Pplcan pretend some things but not things like giving me a row for not kissing her when she came home. She has said no talking would bring it back etc. I have looked at alot of advice on taurus etc. It states you can get them back but you have to show them the person they originally fell for. She has replied to messages etc after saying no contact. (no contact was said by her as i had accused her of cheating, i then apologised for this and explained it was out of confusion and anger) is there still a possibility i can win her back??? Please advise me!! Is beings friends the best way to maintain contact to win her back?

  3. We met 7 months ago online. There is an age difference of ten years she is taurus im an aries. There was alot of chemistry between us so i decided to stay with her whilst i was studying in her city from wed to sat every week! From maybe around 2 months into the relationship she started picking silly little arguements with me over things such as….me not calling/texting as soon as i got up in the morning or when i finished work at nights when i was back home. She would text me when i was on my way through asking if i was nearly there. She was very very much a cuddly person. Anyway, all these little arguements boiled over 2 weeks ago, she had been out and so had i back home. She was quite a jealous person anyway and asked me if i was home. I replied yeah are you? She wasnt really ever keen me questioning her at times! She said we werent working and that she thought about her ex so i finished with her! The following day i text her saying all kinds of things blah blah blah. She said she didnt like drama etc. After a few hours she contacted me wanting me to go through, i went through and she was glad we had got back together and said she had just made that stuff up about her ex! And her friends had said to her that we need to communicate more. If something annoys us about each other we have to discuss it. We both agreed and last week was all back to normal. We were much more loving towards each other holding hands, kissing all that stuff! She was looking forward to summer holidays, valentines etc However, i did at times not welcome her home after work with a kiss and a glass of wine or cup of tea. These gestures i know are important to a taurus. On friday night we had gone out. I then got jealous and caused an arguement due to drunkeness. On sat morning went to see her at her work. Said see you later gave her a kiss. I went on my way, i then got a mess saying we were over as there was no more chemistry for her! No other reason. I have since learnt that it was
    All these little things that caused this to happen as they make big impacts on a taurean. I have explained that it couldve work if we only talked. I would change etc. I was very confused and kept asking her why she was so happy 2 days previous and she said she was pretending. Pplcan pretend some things but not things like giving me a row for not kissing her when she came home. She has said no talking would bring it back etc. I have looked at alot of advice on taurus etc. It states you can get them back but you have to show them the person they originally fell for. She has replied to messages etc after saying no contact. (no contact was said by her as i had accused her of cheating, i then apologised for this and explained it was out of confusion and anger) is there still a possibility i can win her back??? Please advise me!! Is beings friends in order to maintain contact best option?

  4. Hi jay, i have been reading your stuff and i was hoping to get some advice 1 on 1 if you could email or give me your email it would be great!

  5. what is the right way if i did all those mistakes and a few times at that? its been a month and a week since we been bf and gf

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