Today i want to talk about something that is quite helpful and inventive which will help you set new resolutions and goals that allow you to look at what you receive at the end rather than shoving that away and taking the easy way out. Almost like eating fatty food just for a little gratification instead of looking at the long term success of losing weight, in that example you would have to sacrifice fatty foods to lose weight. What we do is get mesmerized by short term gratification and this helps us to feel better in little parts of the day rather than in one massive time period. Would you realistically be more happy eating delicious fatty food every few hours or would you rather be slim and have a few fatty foods like fries every now and then? My opinion is definitely the second. However it is known that if you eating often it is more likely to be because you are bored or just need to feel better about yourself in some cases. Short term gratification is a way out for people to feel good constantly.
Another example is when one is planning for the future but makes an escape to find the easy way out a situation that is time consuming, they quit smoking but have to have a long time of not smoking to really get their power back over the addiction of nicotine. In this case the person is so addicted that the thought of having one pull of that cigarette is helping them to feel alive for 5 minutes each day. A measly 5 minutes! So if your quitting something forget the short term gratification or looking for a quick boost and instead get a bigger boost from the end product.
Also another example, my friend in the past had done both smoking and drinking but realized he could save so much more money if he just got rid of that short term gratification. I told him to look at the long term success if he did both of them and he agreed that he would not only save money he would be able to less dependent on temporary boosts of happiness. The point here is that if your happiness is coming from having something all the time such as re-assurance, material things, drugs, alcohol, a fake reality you have created, clinging to pain and enjoying it these are all examples of short term gratification whereas holding those off would allow for you to not need them all the time and only in parts.
The effort and conscious to do this can allow long term success, that is the reward at the end of the tunnel. If you quit smoking or drinking alcohol because you wanted to you will have quit those “i need my fill moments” and now be thinking “wow i feel great now and i never needed them to feel good, in fact i’m more pleased about how healthy i am”.
And remember being conscious of what you eat or do for that matter is good, every time your tucking into ice cream, fries, pizza etc always remind yourself “do i really want to do this?”, if you do then you are eating because you want to. But if you are doing it to feel good this is perhaps because you are too focused on getting your happiness from the wrong places. Happiness comes from around us, not from things that we need all the time such as alcohol etc.
If you do wish to change something or make a resolution, perhaps you want to drop that habit of smoking in doors remind yourself every time you light your cigarette that you will go outside. By the time you have done this 100 times it will become part of the sub conscious and part of your natural life that it does not require ‘thought’ anymore. What is the long term success of smoking outdoors? Perhaps its for your kids safety and their lungs, maybe its because you don’t want your house to smell of smoke anymore. That is long term success, it took a long while but you got there and sacrificed something else i.e smoking indoors.
So sacrifice short term gratification for long term success, and do not cling to things you do not really need to make you happy if there something you can do about it that brings a better outcome for you and for others. The very few people out there who want to quit will, the ones who don’t just need to take their mind off it and be more conscious of it. The real effort comes when you ask someone else to help you drop a short term gratification, that’s effort!
Last year I dropped 2 stone by eating less bad fatty food, i was actually already slim but still needed to lose a little weight and have done, now i see the long term success of myself being very slim rather than going for that ice cream in the freezer. On another note i have also sacrificed drinking and clubbing this year for more study time, ask me again what the long term success was when i finish my degree 🙂 You get me right?