Many of us argue with loved ones over petty arguments, its just part of human nature and all want to be right, strong, respected or simply seen as a person whose opinion is important whilst others aren’t. But you see that is the exact problem that pops up when we argue with others. We tend to think our opinion matters more than theirs or we simply let our EGO get the best of us.
The two most common ways we argue is when we feel attacked or someone has hurt us, another is when someone else simply disagrees with us on something we have done or said. Whilst arguing is normal arguing all the time is not and can ruin a relationship or friendship you have with anyone, that is why its important that if your in this situation right now you focus on creating peace between you are the other person.
So how do you handle an argument? When an argument starts simply be CALM and realize the argument is not worth your time arguing over, keep the EGO under check as well as your feelings towards the situation. Simply tell the other person you do not want to argue because you would rather not stress your relationship further, simply walk away from this situation as soon as possible. If the other person is intent on arguing you must simply tell the other person it is not your interest to argue over something that isn’t worth it.
Because lets be serious; is arguing more important than the relationship you have with this person since arguing is deteriorating the bond you have?
You may ask, how can i be so calm when this person has attacked me or disagreed with something i did? The answer is that in this situation their arguement is caused by their opinion which clashes with yours. simply accept their opinion, why? Because their opinion is their opinion and you cannot change it regardless of whether its wrong or something you don’t like (that includes insults). Accepting does not mean allow yourself to be disrespected it simply means do not get involved with fighting it out with someone who is full of anger and hatred. So accept their opinion and comments, don’t let it bother you. The only thing you can do here is walk away from the situation and tell the other person you don’t want to argue about something silly.
An opinion or disagreement should not be taken to heart because the person is stating what one feels or thinks of a situation, this is like their human right, they are allow to have their own view on something. Promoting the hatred by further argument though, i would not promote it, a clash of EGOs or a clash of two people arguing to win an argument will never happen. Two opinions that clash is not a fight that can be won unless one changes their opinion. If one of you has an opinion you consider wrong, an opinion cannot be wrong but a fact can be. So always take into consideration you cannot change them and in this case you shouldn’t want to, arguing with someone is almost like telling the other person your opinion matters more.
No ones opinion matters more than the other, facts are important but opinions should be accepted no matter what. A person who walks away from arguments because one does not want to win is the sign of someone who accepts opinions of others and doesn’t feel the need to be right because there was no right in the first place. Keep in mind that if you arguing because you did something wrong then you would take the same approach but tell the other person you were sorry for hurting them, once that is done arguing should blow down. During arguing spend time apart to reflect and to relax, arguing is not worth our time, anything further than disagreement is a waste of time. You can also agree to disagree or simply understand the other person if it doesn’t conflict directly with your opinion. If for any reason the argument is caused by disrespect wait for an apology but do not ask for one unless the other person does not understand what an apology is.
Thanks for reading.