Signs He/She only likes you as a Friend

does he she like me as friend

This is more of a refresher post for the anyone who can’t decide whether that special one in their heart has mutual feelings; there are many signs that a someone only likes you as a friend and these are made pretty clear from the beginning when you meet someone.

There are some people who will show interest later in your friendship but this is usually because they are childhood friends who don’t want to risk your friendship for something that might not work out i.e a relationship. If you have just met this person recently they are more likely to show interest in the first 1-6 months of meeting you. This happens when you meet new people because they had nothing to lose in the first place however some people are still afraid to ask others out or put themselves out there.

Some people will be your friend initially and do actually want to ask you out for a date at some point but the more successful people who do go on dates allow things to happen on their own, they simply allow a relationship to form rather than forcing it to happen. So if you want a relationship to bloom simply allow it to in its own time, watch out for signs of interest and if you see none simply be patient and get on with your life.

I think that if a someone really wants to be with you in a relationship they always make it known some how no matter what, my thinking is that if you have come here to see the signs of friendship then it is probably more likely the person is looking for friendship. Why? Because what you should do is look for signs he or she is interest – not the other side of the coin which is – signs he or she only like me as a friend. One is more positive than the other as well.

I advise too that you should give people hints so that they know you are somewhat interested but do not put yourself out there, I always say that if someone likes you in any form they will make it easy for you to approach and ask them out. If someone does not respond with interest think – 1 step backwards. The point is that if your interest is not reciprocated you must step back otherwise you will end up going for the kill when the signs were not even there to begin with.  Instead of focusing on how friends act look at the positive signs someone gives you when they are around you, they are usually signs of interest. If someone is interested they are going to show you positive signs right? Signs of negativity from others or people simply acting the same around you with everyone else is a sure sign they only like you as a friend. Friends are treated like friends, people who are relationship material get the special treatment from anyone interested.

Sometimes it is fair to say that not every person will like you in a loving relationship way, unfortunately that’s the harsh part of life; this is the same for both sexes. If you do ask your best friend out or show clearly your interested you must be prepared that this person may feel awkward around you for a while or at least, if this happens simply allow the person to have time away from you whilst you let them come out of the woodwork in their own time. One rule also: do not ask someone out twice, the first time is enough.

Here are the signs he or she likes you as a friend only:

  • Treats you the same as other people of the opposite sex.
  • Is comfortable around you and acts the same around you as everyone else.
  • Doesn’t spend all his/her time with you.
  • Doesn’t give you any special treatment.
  • Isn’t over protective of you – he/she cares about you but not like crazy.
  • Sets you up with guys/girls you can date.
  • Spends the same amount of time with you like the rest of his/her friends.
  • Doesn’t get jealous of other guys/girls in your life.
  • Doesn’t give you kisses/close cuddles, he/she will if you are close friends.
  • Is not super sweet or super nice to you.
  • Speaks only about general discussion and not personal discussion.
  • Doesn’t ask you out or at least show any sexual attraction.

If you wish to see the signs of someone who is interested in you, please check out the links below.

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12 thoughts on “Signs He/She only likes you as a Friend

  1. So… my friend know I like him. And at times it seems like he likes me back, like this Saturday when he kissed me and showed jealousy when one of my other friends said he liked me, and then he doesn’t. He says I’m going through a phase but I know I’m not. I don’t know what to do, I’m getting huge mixed signals. Help please

  2. A guy at work has shown great interest in me, he would hold my hands when I was sad or down, hug me, kiss my hand, tell me I’m beautiful.He also kept asking questions about my past romances, asked if I would date someone his age etc.And just last Sunday, He told me he had a dream where I let him in my home, we chatted and spent time together, had a good time, then I kissed him.He asked me to lunch a few months ago, but flaked.But has brought it up again, and asked me to let him know when is good for me.And when I do, he doesn’t respond.

    The other day he mimicked everything I did, which got annoying, and he teased me a lot.And then last weds when I went in shopping, he was a bit rude though with his sarcasm.He said “Boy someone’s a thirsty girl, maybe you should buy more soda” and then when I said it was for my mom he said “Ah, for mommy dearest” like I was 2 yrs old.

    He friended me and my mother on facebook.
    Today at work, I was heading to the restroom(I had a bloody nose) He was like “hello” but he said my name and it was in a soft, gentle voice, but I pratically ignored him and ran into the bathroom, I came out and he kept asking if I was okay, told him my nose was bleeding, he asked to look.And he spent like 3-4 mins looking at my nose or face.

    Then later, I was going to get a drink, he was coming back from break and he said “You look tired” I told him I was exhausted.Told him about me being sick, so my energy was low.He asked if I was okay.

    Then when I was going home, he was bringing carts in, I unloaded my groceries into my car.And He said “Hi Deb” to my mom and “Hello” to me, but inserted my name(I prefer to leave my name out) I brought the cart over I was like “I have a gift for you” He responded with “Yes, I need that” Then said get well soon.

    When I don’t let him help me, he gets upset like I offended him, for example, when I mistyped my pin for my credit card.He asked if I was okay, I said “Yeah, just mistyped my pin.” He was like “Okay, Okay, just trying to help” He constantly says he’s worried about me, always asking if I’m okay.

    When he asked me out, he gave me his number, but did not want mine(which was odd) He flaked on our outing, saying his brother had a heart attack, I gave him the benefit of the doubt.And said yes to a reschedule, unfortunately, the following week I had to cancel.And ever since then he occassionally brings it up, and tells me I need to let him know.He’s always asking my days off.Yet when I contact him and let him know, he doesn’t respond.But when I tell him I don’t know my days off yet, he says “So you don’t know when I’ll see you again? Only working days” He’s got me confused.

    Any advice?

  3. I use to like this girl a lot but then i stoped and now we are really great friends. But now i think that i have fealings For Her Again She Shows Some Signs Of Likeing Me(like Hitting)and We Hang Out and Text Alot And She Always Asks Me TO go Toher Volley Ball Games.but She Also Shows Signs Of Just wanting to Be Friends HELP PLEASE!!!

  4. I thought a worker from my Angency liked me,cause he will always ask me how I felt about an open relationship,and and always playing with me and not the other people like that,so when I ask him out he told me that he can loose his job if we dated,so I told him I wouldn’t tell no one if we were to date,his reply was he’ll have to think about it,he never called me or said anything about it again,so I just said to myself he’s just not into me,so I moved on,I won’t allow him to have no more personal talks with me no more.

  5. Well I’m still confused, she is and isn’t interested!? It’s like she spends way more time with me than her friends. The awkward silence and all yet she’s my best friend. I often pay for the food but she sometimes gets ahead of me and pays. She dresses up real nice around me with make up and all and hates it when I see her without make up. She also likes surprising me and what not but Im still not quite certain if it’s just because we are best friends.

    • Hi Alex. If she spends more time with you its a good thing but of course you need to weigh up why you would believe your only a friend to her? The problem with ‘best friends’ is that its hard to make a jump into a relationship if you have been friends for a long time, she would be scared too.

      Though having read your post the fact she dresses up nice around you (or for you) and sometimes pays for you are good signs. Furthermore a girl who does not like to be seen without a makeup is a good sign, but is she like this with you or all guys? If she surprises you often its because shes into you. If you want to test if shes into you, see if shes open to seeing you on most occasions, if she is then she is into you. If she doesn’t mind being alone with you shes into you and is receptive to intimacy. Good luck

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